We know that those who speak ill of the dead do so because they have skeletons in their closets. The same people who judged you after you died Kristy for having been bitter from grief as you were a neglected and abused child who lost her children to the same system who took you as a child. Have said some disturbing things and done some disturbing things to their children or in front of their children or in the way they spoke to their children. Those children of theirs who (denied=lied) over how they think those things never happened when they did happen. They have Stockholm Syndrome because they idolize both the parents who abused a child/ren of theirs. And because they also idolize themselves.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.